Sometimes I feel like I’m the only mommy blogger on the planet that doesn’t have pictures of her children on her blog and social media. There is a reason for that. I’m a firm believer that what you put out there cannot be taken back. There is no such thing as “deleting” something off the internet. Yes, yes, this probably makes me a little bit of a conspiracy theorist but I’m ok with that.
I just think we don’t realize exactly how much the world is changing around us – or how fast. Most of us in our childhood could give a relatively good prediction of what life would look like in our early adulthood and we assume the same for our children. But that is simply not the case. Things are drastically different this year than they were 5 years ago. Facebook is only 10 years old. Do you remember life before Facebook? I sure don’t!
And that’s honestly a little scary. How do we prepare for the future when we have no idea what they will look like? How do we protect our children when we don’t know what we are protecting them from?
The only way I can is to err on the side of caution. I’m sure that even some things I do will backfire on them, but I can only do so much. There are people who have done crazy things in high school and posted it online, only for a potential employer to find it later and refuse to hire them. There are stalkers who watch what parents post and then track down their children. The uncertainties of the online world are great.
My own personal social media is pretty shut down. There is no evidence that I even have children on my personal profiles and when I do post pictures, I generally don’t post those super gorgeous “Look at those eyes!” type pictures – because those are the kind pedophiles steal. Yes, its scary and depressing. I wish it weren’t so. I’m actually on the search for some other option of picture sharing that doesn’t involved social media, but no luck yet.
So it only stands to reason that if I’m protective of my kids on my own personal profile, which is open only to close friends and family, that I would be even more protective on a public blog.
I don’t want to blast their name all over my blog and in 20 years that somehow come back to haunt them. Not that they are doing anything illegal or dangerous but really, you just never know. Plus, have you ever looked back at pictures of you as a kid and been 1000% embarrassed? Fortunately for me, most of my pictures aren’t online. Those embarrassing pictures are in a box at my mom’s house. But what about my children? My 4yr old does some pretty crazy stuff that she may not want a future boyfriend to know about. Isn’t that her decision to share it, not mine?
So by not sharing their names and not sharing pictures of their faces (you’ll notice most, if not all, of the pictures I share of my children on my blog are from the side, back or top), I protect them from creepy weirdos now, I protect them from any potential problems in the future, and I allow them the autonomy to share what they want, when they want.
And really, who’s business is it anyway? While I LOVE bringing you, my readers, into my home and I know you would love my family as much as I do, my blog isn’t about my children. Its about me, as a mom. Its about you, as a mom. Its about getting ourselves to a place we should be so that we can be what our children need.
Childhood is so short and the innocence it gives is so precious. I don’t want to do anything to harm that bubble they live in for a few short years.
So what do you think? Agree, disagree? I’ve found this to be such a heated topic but it doesn’t need to be! You do what you feel is best for your children and I’ll do what I feel is best for mine. That’s all anyone can do. <3